Friendsgiving is huge among 20 and 30 somethings who live far from home, are too broke to travel, or (most likely) would rather spend time with their chosen family than their God-given one. But no matter what the reason, Friendsgiving is always a fun event to throw. Here are a few tips to make it the best ever:

The invites set the tone.

Do you want this to be a swanky affair, exhibiting just how well you adult? Do you want it to be boozy enough that people forget you’re not a great chef? Do you want it to be a casual drop-in where people can bring folks along? Express what you want with your invitation.

First: Font matters. If there’s script anywhere on the page, it means swank.

Second: Delivery matters. Consider sending an evite if it’s a casual event but you need RSVPs. Send an email if you’re thinking casual drop-in.

Third: Assignments matter. People need to bring dishes, so you need to tell them what to bring. And this brings us to our second tip:

You cook the turkey. But nothing else.

Listen, you’re going to have to do all the cleaning, the inviting, the tablescape and the turkey. THAT’S PLENTY. The rest of your mooching friends can bring the sides and beverages of choice. Here are some we recommend: wine, dressing, wine, green bean casserole, wine, sweet potato souffle, wine, and mashed potatoes. For dessert, the only acceptable dishes come in pie form. Those are the rules, people. And we didn’t make the rules. If you’ve got vegetarian friends, make sure that people know so that they can make fun of them–just kidding–so that vegetarian options can be made. We wouldn’t want those darling Veggies to starve.

Setting the table is an art.

If you’re not prepared to care about the Thanksgiving table, you need to go ahead and attend someone else’s party. For those up to the challenge of creating an Instagram-worthy tablescape, then here are three trends we love:

  1. The White Minimalist: Paint some pumpkins and gourds white, grab some mason jars and arrange some white flowers in them. Put down a textured table runner (or, you guessed it — a white table runner). To emphasize fall’s foliage, we recommend throwing in some greenery and perhaps even green placemats. The accent will make your all-white dishes pop.
via Thrifty and Chic

via Thrifty and Chic

2. Rustic & Electic: This look needs fall foliage (like these amazing magnolia leaves) and lots of autumnal colors. Create nameplates for your guests with tiny chalkboards or black cardboard and gold leaf pens. Everywhere you look, there should be a leaf or a candle. It makes this table seem incredibly friendly and inviting. Everyone should probably get their own mini pumpkin too, because why not?

via Eat Well 101

via Eat Well 101

3. The Elegant Floral: If you’ve got a substantial budget (and time) to spend on this Friendsgiving table, then the answer is always flowers. Arrange florals in small vases (so as not to impede people’s view and conversation) and fill in holes with tall taper candles. If it’s a semi-formal affair (like you sent a paper invite or required an RSVP), then go ahead and break out Mom’s white table linens and silver. The more ‘ware, the fancier the fete.



Now you’re ready to throw the Friendsgiving of a lifetime. We’re ready to hear all about it! Share your tablescapes (whether yours or your awesome friend’s table) with us on social: check out Pink Verbena’s Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.